When you objectify yourself to someone else’s behavior, you almost begin to identify with it. You start to feel like their actions are a direct response of how you made them feel and so, somehow, you are wrong, even if you don’t have a logical reason why. You want to make this person happy, you want to make them happen because of you, not because of anything else and so you live your life thinking of this person in every decision that you make— this can be healthy, if the other person is responsive and wishes to do the same for you but it can also be extremely unhealthy if the other person begins to expect it with nothing in return. Still, after countless times of feeling as though your intentions do not resonate, you continue to try harder, to the point where you almost become desperate to receive attention and love and gratitude from this person and maybe that will happen eventually but somewhere in eventually, you have lost what is important to you and what makes you happy and you forget that your happiness does not actually depend on this person— it doesn’t and eventually you accept this and kick yourself for wasting so much valuable time aching for hopes and dreams that have an unlikely probability. So here is to recognizing unlikely probability.